Logically, we know exactly what we want in our partner but yet It is said that we live in a generation of people with broken hearts. Often people describe LOVE based on their feelings or experience. Those feelings would fade away one day, but they still take us back to where it all started. It also develops a sense of maturity without giving a hint.
We can say Love is a choice, a way of life. And the only real thing we have. No matter how attractive a person's potential may be, you have to make a choice to date a persons reality.
When you GOOGLE “biology of love” you will get answers stating that biologically, love originates in the delicate nerves of our brains (the emotional core of the human nervous system that evolved long before the cerebral cortex) interestingly cancelling the so-called theory of love and heart. The heart we talk about is actually our brain messing with us chemically. The brain of a human 'in love' is flooded with sensations, often transmitted by the vagus nerve, creating much of what we experience as emotion. Needless to say, the scientific basis of love is often sensationalized, and as with most science, we don’t know enough to draw firm conclusions about every piece of the puzzle. What we do know, is that much of love can be explained by chemistry. So, if there’s really a “formula” for love, what is it, and what does it mean?
Various scientists and philosophers have long tried to define love. There is no formula to define the meaning of love. Which can be defined is the understanding of love from various perspectives of life. Here are some meanings of love from famous thinkers:
- According to M. Scott Peck, an American psychiatrist and author of The Road Less Traveled, the meaning of love is a humans' desire to develop themselves and to maintain their spiritual growth or spiritual development of others.
- According to Erich Fromm, a psychology professor from Germany, five processes shape love: recognition, feeling, responsibility, attention, and mutual respect.
There will be days it won't work. But then there will be days when you will talk to them till 3 am as if there's no tommorow. Both of you have busy life but somehow you manages to text each other to talk to each other and that is something real. That is a choice you made.
When you start to grow old and mature, you realize all you are looking for is a House, a stable work and a partner forever who wakes up wearing your T-shirt in the morning.
You are in love with watching them glow. Like when they are wearing their favorite color or knowing they are being clever.When they twirl in a new dress or just being a mess. And what's love without a little madness.
You are in love with their light.
when you love them, it feels so good for sharing your life with them. Everyone wants a long walk, everyone wants to sit on a rooftop with someone at 3am just looking at the glazing stars and with them Universe seems to be at peace.
But Love demands attention as I said earlier feelings fades and when they do, our interest for them decrease too, everything is connected. It's a loop where if you miss a single dot the loop breaks or should I say heart breaks ?
Falling in love isn't hard it's matter of moment for you to fall for someone but maintaining your love is hard.
Lack of conversation can ruin everything instead of knowing what other feels we just assume and that's why Deep conversation with someone is everything but love needs the blend of deep conversation and actions. Sometimes smallest things take up the most room in your heart. People never forget how you made them feel.
But the most fascinating thing about the love is “ You can love who you want but so can they.”
And that's where the problem start, atleast it seems like that.
It would be privileged to have heart broken by the person you love
Everyone has their reason for their heart break .
Some people are meant to fall in love with each other but not meant to be together.
And when heart breaks it shatters everything inside you. You feel terrible for being rejected or sometimes rejecting.
Sometimes, people we like don't like us back it's painful but there's nothing we can do about it.
Lucky are those who love someone and get loved back.You can never engineer someone's feeling but what you can do is try. But trying has its limit too. Some people are ready to try forever to be with the one they love.
Everything you cannot have and everything you ever wanted.What a beautiful contradiction it is.
When love leaves it changes you in more ways than one, on some days you miss them and want them back and on others you wonder what went wrong. You think about all the things you could have done, all the things you should have done, you go back in times a million times hoping you can make it better, but you never can. You should know that when someone leaves, its a choice that they have made and you should respect their choice because when you don't, you become miserable, you beg for their love, you beg for them to stay, you beg for the last hug, you beg for the missing piece of your heart. But I think If they really had the missing piece that you required they would never leave Because when a missing piece fills up the void in a puzzle they just didn't complete the puzzle they found the place they belong to.
When a string(TRUST) is attached to two particular objects(HEARTS) (Love grows) either of them is definitely dependent on other and when string breaks the dependent falls(HEARTBREAKS)
We all know Gravity(EXPECTATIONS) is it's reason of falling.
And we just need to find an escape velocity.Escape velocity can be anything that helps you move on and heal.
But it's not possible to heal when you can't even accept that the one you still love has already left. Never try to force yourself to forget but try to move on and accept the reality because memories are the hardest to get away from. Once they hit they will leave you untethered, they will leave you sinking into solid ground, they will leave you shaking and gasping for air, EXCEPT THEY NEVER LEAVE.
So many people teach you how to fall in love ... But unfortunately no one teaches how to move on.
Love has its own pattern
Comes -> Stays/Leaves -> Happiness/Pain -> and then Magic happens. you see, magic always happens, you just have to keep moving forward.
But it's painful when love never comes your way. when you have friendship on stakes, Your love for them has to sacrifice. And sometimes You know you were going to be heart broken, but a part of you really hoped you wouldn't. The thing is you can never be just be friends with someone you love. Maybe you'll never be loved back by them the way you do, but still you choose to walk together like a parallel line to infinity and beyond. It's shattered love yet divine.
Despite of being hurt in love, you always apply Iodex on your wounds and stand up again... to give one more try.
No one can unlove someone, but most of us still has the biggest fear is to be unloved.
IN THE END, I would still wish for a love story or atleast a heartbreak.
To the one you loved or you will love.
-Just divide the universe, let them keep everything. You just keep them.
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